You know, when people ask me if we're ever going to have kids and I reply somewhat vaguely (BECAUSE MY UTERUS IS NONE OF YOUR FRIGGIN BUSINESS!), I always...and I mean ALWAYS hear the reply,
"Well, if you aren't 100% sure you want kids, you shouldn't have them."
WTF?!? And it happens EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
You know what I think? I think people who aren't at least a little ambivalent,/nervous/worried about bringing another human being into the world and have the responsibility to care and feed and not totally screw them up should maybe be a little bit less biologically driven and little more conscious about what they are doing. Knowing you want kids doesn't suddenly make you contenders for Parent-Of-the-Year, assholes. It just makes you animals fulfilling your basic biological programming.
And the number of women who tell me that their preganancies were unplanned or that they got knocked up because they were playing fast-and-loose with contraception but I'm the one who shouldn't have children because I'm not 100% positive BLOWS MY MIND. Uh, if you were so sure you wanted kids right then, it would have been a little more planned, nu?
(Nothing wrong with wanting to fulfill your biological drive, but don't tell me that I shouldn't have kids because I say I'm not sure. I'm not sure for a lot of reasons that I don't care to discuss in casual conversation and is really nobody's business. And even if I wasn't sure simply because the idea of raising children is scary prospect, I don't think that makes me incompetent. I don't take ANY life-changing choice lightly and without much thought and something of this magnitude--it has always been and will always be and "I don't really know" until such time as Iwe feel like we're ready to make that jump or we decide that it isn't for us and I'm not ever going to give a definite answer until a definite answer arrives. That would be premature.)